Dallas Buyer’s Club

I am late to this party, I know, but I just managed to go see Dallas Buyer’s Club tonight. If you have paid any attention to any of the awards shows, you know it has received all sorts of awards, including Oscars for both Matthew McConaughey and Jared Leto. My husband and I have limited opportunities to see movies, but fortunately for me, my husband likes to see Oscar caliber movies and not just summer blockbusters. (Though of course we see those too when we can.)

Dallas Buyer’s Club is well worth watching for a lot of reasons. Matthew McConaughey’s Ron Woodruff was no hero in many ways, especially in the beginning, but there was something very compelling in his fight to stay alive.

Dr. Eve Saks: We can make you comfortable.
Ron Woodruff: What? Hook me up to the morphine drip, let me fade out? Nah. Sorry lady, I prefer to die with my boots on.

His story raises a lot of questions about the access to and regulation of treatments for disease, like HIV/AIDS, and spotlights how people with AIDS have been treated. His journey is well worth watching and Matthew McConaughey looks 100% the part of a dying man. Shockingly so at times.

But the moments that really grabbed me and truly broke my heart were the scenes with Jared Leto’s character, Rayon.

Rayon, I suppose, also tries not to die, but it seems through drug addiction and self loathing, he is fighting all sorts of losing battles. The scene where we see him go to his father, not as the transvestite he is, but wearing a suit that does not fit him, in more ways than one, will tear you apart. Or at least it did me. Then afterwards we see him, devastatingly thin, looking in the mirror and promising God (and himself) that when he meets God that he will finally be pretty. He looks in he mirror and you can feel the pain he finds there.

This is not what the movie is about. But it made me feel, it made me cry, and it made me hope for a better world where a father would never make his son feel unwanted and unloved. It made me want a better chance for him, and others like him, at more acceptance and more love. A world with less judgement, both of others and of ourselves.

As Ron says, “I’ve only got one life, I want it to mean something.”

“Everything is Awesome!”

If you have seen the new Lego movie, you sang that title and finished it with … “Everything is cool when you’re part of a team!” If you haven’t seen the movie, well, you should.

My husband and I took our three boys to see The Lego Movie last night and we are all still trying to get that catchy tune out of our heads. The song is actually a bit of a joke because it’s what the unenlightened Legos love, but it sure is fun.

Sure, it becomes clear everything is not as awesome as the villain would have them believe, but they all go through the big journey of the
movie and in the end, wrap it all back up with ‘Everything is Awesome’.

Tonight I am watching the Oscars. I’ve also been following along with all the tweets. I see there are a couple of ways to see the Oscars. A popular one is the ‘Lets Criticize and Mock Everything and Everyone and their Clothes and their Face’ view.

I live in more of an ‘Everything is Awesome’ worldview. Here are some of may favorites so far:

Benedict Cumberbatch’s photobomb of U2. Taking Awesome to a whole new level.

Jennifer Lawrence stunning, stumbling, and ultimately her usual level of awesome.

Ellen Degeneres hosting again and her opening bit -awesome.

Jared Leto’s acceptance speech. So much awesome.

However, I am seeing it is not at all uncommon for people to focus on the not so awesome, not just what they see and want to make fun of on Twitter or Facebook, but then the comments on the comments on the comments. Yuk.

One especially awful series of Tweets I saw focused on Barkhad Abdi’s teeth. The Captain Phillips Best Supporting actor nominee has a great story and a lovely spirit but I saw a hateful comment about him followed by some equally hateful back and forth between several Tweeters. Why?

Is it a simple way to look at things to see the beautiful and the lovely things? Does it show greater intelligence to tear things apart and belittle people?

Perhaps some could say I am like the unenlightened Lego people bouncing along to my upbeat little song and not digging into what needs to change in the world.

But I think it’s possible to both strive to see the good things and still work to improve those things around and within us.

Of course I am not perfect and I have snarky thoughts and I make jokes, but I really do strive to filter what I put out into the world, both with IRL interactions and on social networks. I really do try to see all the stuff out there that is awesome.

And I will continue to try to get that song out of my head.

Hope everyone has an awesome week!