I’ve recently started watching old episodes of the TV show Parenthood through my Amazon Prime instant video. It’s not perfect, but it’s got some good moments showing some of the ups and downs of the huge cast of characters in the Braverman clan. I think the series has ended, so it’s not exactly current, but I was watching an episode recently with a quote I just loved, so I thought I would share.
The scene focuses on one of the high school girl characters who we see struggle in a lot of ways that affect her confidence. Amber doesn’t want to meet with a college alumnus because, hey, she might fail, right? Her mom, Sarah, enlists her brother Adam to talk to his niece about it. Adam is the fixer of the show, so it makes sense to send Uncle Adam in to convince Amber to give it a try. It was what Uncle Adam says to Amber that I liked so much. When she admits she doubts herself, he says, essentially, that the World is going to knock you down again and again, so don’t knock yourself down.
Whoa. Right? Great advice there Uncle Adam.
I know for certain that I have been guilty of knocking myself down and I bet I am not the only one. 😀
It is easy to see the faults. It is easy to say we aren’t quite good enough. Maybe it is our writing. Maybe it is appearance. Maybe it is intelligence. Maybe it is any old thing we use to knock ourselves down.
Taking Uncle Adam’s advice though, we should remind ourselves that there are plenty of others who will want to do this for us. So we can’t be one of the naysayers.
We need to be our own advocates. We need to be ready to fight for our work. Decide we are attractive enough. Smart enough. Whatever it is, we are enough.
There’s a great song, Put Me In Coach by John Fogerty, with a chorus that says,
Oh, put me in, Coach, I’m ready to play, today
Put me in, Coach, I’m ready to play, today,
Look at me, I can be Center field.
I will admit I’m no baseball expert (understatement), so I don’t get the full significance of playing Center field, however, I love the idea of saying, “Put me in Coach”, instead of, “Yeah I don’t know if I am good enough, I will just leave it up to you and hope you think I am”. Or even worse to say nothing at all because you have already decided you are not good enough.
Life is gonna knock us out of the game sometimes, or flat out keep us from playing, so it is our job to push ourselves and to believe in ourselves so we can try to get in the game. And to stay in the game. And maybe, sometimes, to knock it out of the ballpark.
**Dedicated to my awesome mom who is starting a new job after the not so fun process of job-hunting, which we all know can knock you down if you let it. Congrats, Mom, on not letting it! Go out there and knock it out of the ballpark. I know you can! 😀**
Have a great week y’all.